WAW within 9 months of wedding

[FuzzyBear]

I think I'm moving towards empathy. I have looked deep into my failures and neglect in M. Most of my friends say I shouldn't take responsibility for the A and I don't but I wasn't perfect

It's easy to think "my issue is way more important than your issue". I'm guilty of it myself when I think of last year with WAW. I felt my family issues (rifts, death, business) were more important than her feeling of not being "lovey dovey" (i only realised this year that in guys speak, a loveless marriage). The A made me very vulnerable and desperate before I understood

There are many other things that WAW either pointed out in M or after A - some are valid and others are excuses. However, the old "invincible" me would not have listened or understood. It took A for me to wake up, become vulnerable and completely open up to what she was trying to say