Hi GWN these are some of the things I believe I have learned:
I feel I have given all I can, and said all I can say, done all I could and found eventually that I have no control over anything except my own thoughts and actions.
The person I fell in love with and pursued for 20+ years was just an illusion.
I could wait to find out who she really is in the hope I could have the great relationship I always wanted.
Or,
I could learn the lessons, take control of my life, make the changes in myself I must make, and pursue a different life.
However I still care for her and am concerned that she may never find that one person who will 'accept her unconditionally and without recrimination no matter what she has said or done', who will finally make her happy.
