He actually told me the other day Remember I used to tell you I used ex-GF a little bit for money? Yes this is kinda this way.
He had a GF that he was on and off for 5 years before we met, he wasn't way into her but she adored him and make his life a bit comfortable. They got back together once because she bought a house and as if put it lured him in. He's later referred to that as her buying him a house.

I can't offer him any of things. I think that I was the first R he had that was none of those things. For the first time he didn't have the power in the R. That's why he likes this girl who is less pretty. He likes being the better looking in the R. I had chalked up all those statements as him being young but he's not in his 20's anymore. He's 36!

I thought that he had found independence, that he was self-confident. But I don't think he was. I think he just stopped being reliant on me. I remembered yesterday on Tuesday he commented he'd found a shirt with tags on it, when did I buy that. (yeah I've been picking out his clothes since week 2 of our R) and I remembered that when she tagged him on FB in a shopping area someone commented "shoe shopping?" and he "actually we did go there" Because he needs his new GF to help him pick out shoes. I started cracking up laughing.

Yes I may have dodged a bullet. I really believe that he won't be happy until he handles his own bills, etc.He really hates that he has to borrow money, but he doesn't want to change his lifestyle. People have to decide for themselves when they're going to stop going round that mountain.

I have a pattern of men who need to be taken care of and I'm not doing that anymore!

I think she should be recognizing some of this. When they first started dating I know she was paying for a lot (she has a high paying job), they went to dinner with friends of his and his friend said he was paying. Apparently she kept elbowing him to pitch in or protest and he kept shhhh'ing her. I laughed and said she doesn't know you. It's not that he's tight but he never turns down anyone else offering to pay. She obviously felt uncomfortable in that position.

As far as him standing up to me for cheating. He knew I was dating/flirting/spending time with CW. He was nothing but supportive of that. yeah which hurt. I had already been cemented in my WAW status when he just didn't care/never got jealous about anything pre me leaving. I didn't tell him I'd slept with CW until after he met GF..