NRTS (Not Repairable at This Station) 2

[WenikiTiki]

At long last I have sat quietly and the answers have come!

My DIL has been getting crap from her employer. He has the employees making out personal checks to him for their health insurance, the amounts vary wildly and are not written on their pay statements. She has worked for them for almost 8 years. I have never pried into her and my sons business.

I just happened to be around when she was presented with a HUGE bill for insurance. And my son came home from his job and came unglued. And they were arguing in front of me, which has never happened before in their 5 years of marriage, 3 years of which they lived with us.

Anyway, emotions bring out words, and the truth. My DIL wants to stay here in Hawaii. She wants to start her own wedding planning business. She wants to give it a year. She wants my support in this, as babysitter and jack-of-all-trades. (I sew, cook, arrange flowers, drive, haul, and can even hold my own as a photographer.....)

She has been doing that for the past 2 years and then got demoted to bartender. She thinks it is so the owner doesn't have to pay comissions on the weddings. She is still helping with all the weddings she booked, but not getting the commissions. The new gal isn't getting them either.

If you look on Yelp my DIL has nothing but praise for all the weddings she coordinated. Anyway, She feels like we should stay here for a year, and see what happens. And then if things aren't going anywhere, we can still move back to the mainland.

I had an amazing sense of this being the right thing to do. I can rent a place, and move on. But I don't have to leave behind the place I have grown to call home. And can hang awhile longer with my BFF. My friend had her big scan yesterday. And they saw something, put her in a different machine, did more scans, scared her and now she has to wait a few days for the results.

I want to be here for her for as long as I can. The first time we met I knew we were going to be friends forever. (Who couldn't like someone who had a forget dinner, just bring your favorite dessert party?!?)

Anyway, I am feeling better about all this. I took papers to the lawyer today. And didn't even cry. I actually dismantled a bunch of stuff. Packed up all STBXH's beer mugs and put the box in his closet. I also put in a few things I bought that were eagle related, because not only am I not a colonel, I indeed don't want things around that were/are all about him.

Aloha,

Wendy