When it's a one-way street...part 5

[zig]

Zig... you may have missed the post where CV said that she "loved" her H... she just didn't like him...

CV - i got it real clear that you don't like him - but you didn't answer my questions - what are you doing and what is your real position.

Really, all this because I don't get the value in having someone in the room while you're sleeping, and thus my choosing to leave? I don't choose to leave S during his movie, he's awake

no, CV, and this IS definitely said in a gentle tone:

could this be his way of very tentatively asking for your reassurance? you've done a sixes on him and it's affected his self esteem big time

"all this" because you're not getting what we are trying to say, or ask you.

WAS's awfulize their LBS's - and it seems to me that you are awfulizing this whole movie/sleeping/snoring thing big time. I've watched my WAS literally grab for every tiny little incident to use as fuel for his anger toward me.

and i'm saying that you have a huge amount of anger -and what are YOU going to do about it? until your anger and resentment dissolve, nothing good can move forward between you two.

seriously , what's your point here? to stay with him and have a good relationship, or to leave? and while you're deciding, because i'm sure that is a really hard decision for you, and i mean that well, are you just going to continue to be mean? (and in case it wasn't clear: doing things like waking someone up to "scare the crap out of them" is mean)

i guess that i am a pretty blunt person and not as kind and polite as KD and others here.

once again, i hope that you can begin to see our point. we all do mean well

thanks
zig