This is all really interesting, CV. I mean that with the utmost sincerity.
Your post about the movies above makes perfect sense to me.
I really do understand and appreciate that you do not like someone snoring in the room when you are trying to watch a movie.
And Accuray suggesting boundaries and consequences is a great suggestion.
What OT's intentions were for her post, I completely believe her intentions were good and suspect she was looking for some introspection on your part as opposed to being judgemental. Of course, I'm not OT so I have no idea. Just my take.
Also, interesting about your H's response. I'm going to take a moment to digest that...