Not sure where to start, Part 3

[jks]

I am really irritated that he cannot spend a weekend alone with his kids without being with OW. We live near a big city. There is plenty to do. Zoos, picnics , state parks, baseball games, camping. Every weekend I spend alone with the kids. Why can't he do the same?

Because he's in a state of feeling like OW is everything to him. I know that may hurt to hear, but it's true. You have to relate it to when you were first in love and the emotions that you were going through. You wanted to spend every waking moment with that person. Not to say that your H is "in love" but the infatuation is obviously there. They are blinded by this infatuation and the way they feel around this person and don't realize that the feelings will change and reality will set in. They always do and it always does.

I hate that adultery is even legal. I've said this before, but I think it is absolutely insane the amount of anguish it imposes on a family. I feel it is worse than death. Because at least with death you have closure. An affair can be ongoing for who knows how long and the betrayal is heart wrenching.

I feel for you and I know exactly how you feel when it comes to protecting your kids from OW. The situation isn't stable for them and your H has no idea if the R with her is going to last or not. So to expose them to that prematurely can most definitely hurt and confuse them. Do what you need to protect them.