Are you trying to put words in my mouth? That appears to be another thing you do fairly frequently.

Here's a story about me:

My parents are both alcoholics. My mom still is, my dad is 7 years clean.

My W sends a box of brandy chocolates with my D9, suggesting that she offer them to my parents if they want.

My W is fully aware of their alcoholism.

When I state that to my W, she "goes off the deep end". Finally concluding that our R is bad, just because of a stupid box of chocolate.

I did not do anything other than indicate that my W should know better than to suggest to my D9 to give my alcoholic parents brandy chocolates.

My W... for all intents and purposes... could not see the trees for the forest...