Well H, I can tell you that living with somebody like that svcks hairy moose b***! I did it for over two years with her in the same house. After she said she wanted a divorce, she stayed in the same bed for three more months. Left when she didn't get her way. I know I could have kicked her out. I also knew she wouldn't stay for too much longer...
Hang in there. It's tough, but it's not the end unless and until you end it. That's just how it is.
Your happiness and sadness? Yours. You make that choice even if sometimes it doesn't seem like it. Even with him in the room.
AJ
P.S. want to make him think? You can't. But you can give him the room to do so. Don't have relationship conversations with him. Act as if you are happy and let him figure himself out. Regardless of how things end up, it won't be fast, but it sure will take longer if you are swaying in the breeze with him. Stay sane and do whatever it takes to do that short of inviting others into the marriage.
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
