Thanks for giving me great advice. It does feel good though to have that out of my system. With me, it's always a case of 'the less said the better', and I need to keep reminding myself not to lecture H and my kids.
I do have a lawyer, but I'm afraid that I can't continue to pay her. For 2 consults already - and advice from her that H proceeded to absolutely ignore - I was up for a huge amount of money that my parents offered to pay. Don't see how I can go down that route for long, but then again, neither will my H be able to, I suppose.
And on the topic of root canal - you were right about that, too!
I had it done yesterday, and it didn't hurt a bit.
Last time was some years ago now (and, so, equipment more basic) but also I think, last time, my tooth was not dead and so when the reaming devices were jammed up and down in the root canal, the open nerve was being prodded. It was torture! No probs at all now apart from a bit of residual aching and tenderness in my jaw. Yay for small mercies...