I posted earlier on that. At this point it's more a matter of not wanting to be D'd with all the baggage that entails. Plus, what spouse doesn't want a happy M? I'm not a cold fish.
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What would he say you've changed thru out the M even if it's in reaction to him?
- I don't want to do things with him. - I won't engage deeply with his children or extended family - I don't want to have sex anymore. - I do a lot more of the things I always wanted to do, without him - I'm messier than I used to be. - I'm not as giving as I used to be - I never entertain friends at the house with him. - I garden a lot more than I used to. - I don't try as hard to be a good W anymore - I don't make as much money as I used to. - I complain and criticize him - I bring up his past mistakes - I don't trust him
Honestly, these are my thoughts on how I've changed, and they're all true. But you've peaked my curiosity and I might actually ask him that.
