"can you not see what you are doing by chasing and crowding me?"
The answer is that yes I can, but I cannot seem to help myself - anxiety takes over at levels I have never experienced before and I have what seems like a physical urge to contact her and ask her questions.
I know I need to give her space but I am worried that moving so far back will just push her to the advances of the boss.
She told you out of her own mouth to stop chasing her! Most LBH's don't get advice from the WAW like that. Take it!
I think every man that has come here has said almost word for word what you've said in this quote above. The successful ones took our advice and stopped pursuing. The unsuccessful followed their emotions & urges to make contact, tried to win the WAW back, and to make changes to impress her. Oh, and they kept talking about the R to WAW! They seem to think that they could fix what's broken by talking. Talking and talking and talking.
My advice to you is do none of these things that unsuccessful men have done, and your GF will begin to notice. If you improve yourself....."for you".....she will be attracted to you once again. If you stay persistent in being a great dad and the best man you can be, then she will respect you. She's got to respect you before she'll want to stay with you.
Stop pointing out things to her (like the WAW Syndrome) or other material about R's, about what she should do or about how this affects the kids. I promise you, if you continue doing it your way....it will work against you!
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
