Brit, your comments are highly appreciated. I hope you are holding up ok

I have pretty much taken the view that WAW very much in love with her "soul mate" OM. Otherwise she wouldn't sacrifice M, her family relationships, etc. She is in this fog where all wisdom and comments from married friends and family is ignored and written off as nobody understands her and everyone is "forcing their views on her".

To date, she has only listened to three friends. Unfortunately for M, they encouraged her to do what makes her happy because she deserves to be happy. Sounds ok but they do not place any commitment or value the sanctity of M. R to them should be natural and should not require any work. Of course they don't tell or guide WAW what to do (only her family dare do that) but their "listening and support" has been bad for M

I hope she finds her happiness even if that means M ends. Although still no mention of R or D since separation

I decided in March not to compete with OM, not to tell WAW how she should think about R, and let WAW go on her own journey. The A doesn't seem like it will fizzle out any time soon but any conversation with WAW at the moment is fruitless and painful

This forum has been great for support and my goal of GAL

H 34 W 27
M 9mth T 8
Separated 1/'12 ILYBNILWY
OM 2/'12