So you don't like him or you don't like how he is to you. You don't like spending time with him because he shuts you out. He's not there sexually (I've been there sister) and you treat him with kindness even though he doesn't deserve.
So why do you want this M to work?
Why if all those things are true: nothing works: no books no change in behaviour no sexual advances why are you holding on?
I stopped holding on (then I did a lot of stuff I regret) but I was honest with myself to say he doesn't want to change and we're miserable and something has to change. Then the trying and expectations were gone and we related to each other different and I thought its still there.
What would he say you do different? My H said that I only dressed up for friends and work. That's just an example. But he's not the only one who's changed. What would he say you've changed thru out the M even if it's in reaction to him?
