Not Being A Victim

[BklynMom]

Today was a great day. D3 had an appointment with a cardiologist b/c her dr. heard a heart murmur. Turns out her heart is perfect, no murmur even.

So my H just spent over an hour over here to pick up the kids. Dont know how it turned into an hour+ since everything was all packed when he got here. Girls were dilly dalling. D3 ask H if I could spend the night at daddy house. H just didnt answer. Also H brought me a coffee, which he hasnt done in while since I told him I need more space. (I told him I needed more space the day he filed for D)

My H has totally bought into this co-parenting crap about how freaking great its going to be once he is fully self actuallized and we are friends that can sip coffee while discussing the logistics of our kids lives. THat is total BS to me. If you can be friends with the other person and you are attracted to that person, and you have kids THEN YOU SHOULD BE MARRIED!! Hello. Didnt we both have the same values when we tied the knot?? Didnt we both value marriage and family and committment. Who is this alien.

I feel like I should tell H we need to go see the therapist again because D3 doesnt get that me sleeping at Daddys house is not an option. Someone needs to correct D3 rather than ignore it.

Meanwhile in lawyer land, its H turn to respond in writing to my L (who is also my father) and we are waiting for a response. Its been almost 2 weeks. I am feeling weak in the knees. Is his response going to be so comprehensive that the negotiating process will be over quickly and that will be the end of it??

I am going to enjoy the next 24 hours with no kids and get out and do some yoga and run.