Thanks autumn - i was so pleased to just be nominated for the award - was over the moon to find out i'd been shortlisted.
my h text me earlier asking if he could come round this evening after work. i said i wasnt sure when i'd be finishing but if i was home when he was going past (he has to drive past my house when going to ane from work) then by all means to stop by. he came and was all miserable say he was ill - in truth he really didnt look too good, so as soon as he got here he asked if he could havee a lie down. after a little while he asked me what we were going to do. i was confused by this and asked what he meant, and he said how are we going to sort out the divorce.
to be honest, this made me angry. not so much he's bringing upbthe divorce - i feel ok with that at the minute (tomorrow may be different) but because of how he wants it to work - in the uk there is no 'no fault' divorce, and he wants me to do it first because he doesn't think he has grounds (he doesn't), and second because its my job - he thinks i can do it easily (i can,but i didnt start doing family law so i could do my own divorce!!). I have previously rold hom he can go ahead, and i won't defend or delay it, but he doesn't want to have to sort it! I can't imagine why he would think i would do it!
the main reason i got angry though is that he came round to say this knowing that my brother's wedding is on fri,and that i'll be leaving tomorrow to stay in the hotel we were supposed to be staying in. i suddenly realised that he's come round to say this because he's now 'sure' he wants a divorce but doesn't want to have to do anything about it himself, and without a single thought of 'maybe this could wait until she's back from the wedding'.
i didn't lose my temper or cry in front of him, hut i did say that i have already told him if he wants a divorce then to see to it himself, that he has terrible timing, and then i asked him to leave
i know this probably goes completely against db principles, but i suddenly had enough. i also think he was surprised because i haven't stood up for myself for years for fear of pushing him away - he called a couple of times afterwards to say sorry .
