An update. Things are slightly improved. When we met to play tennis H said that he feels he can sometimes react 'in the spur of the moment' he said we're better off acting normal. I'm not sure whether he means gloss over our problems and then separate when he goes on tour, or if he wants to give us a chance. I resisted the urge to ask him and have decided to wait until our MC session on Friday.
H has mentioned going on holiday before he deploys and has made arrangements to visit his family next weekend (with me) I'm so confused but am trying to get on with things and not ask about our R. Am I doing the right thing or am I sticking my head in the sand?