I am a "young" 47...heck my oldest son and his friends like me hanging around them and even come "hang-out" when oldest isn't around, and I have been carded buying beer when freshly shaved and haircut (minimizes the grey apparently...lol). Being a former musician, etc has helped keep me "young", I jam with them and we have a lot of music commonalities, etc...but...
One of the fall-outs of dealing with a spouse's MLC/severe menopause is that love is no longer blind...I guess I am more "actuarial" regarding a future committed relationship...there ARE risks that I want to minimize...such as repeating MLC (heck, I am on phase 2 with the current one, don't know if I have it in me for a third....).
Would I rule out a woman in her 30's, early 40's? Heck no. 20's? Probably, because I think there IS too much difference in world view and emotional maturity, usually. Plus it just screams "male MLC" to me, and I just don't find that attractive anymore. I am just fine and at peace with my age. I only "explored" for about a week, so by no means did I even begin to dip my toe in the waters, so I don't even have a decent sample to go off of. And where I live, "young at heart/in mind" and open-mindedness is prevalent in the 40-60 age range.
Hopefully this is just a mental exercise for me, but more importantly putting out there that despair isn't needed...
Just my .03
T^2
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
