But! I try to show only positive attitudes towards everything she does. I'm trying to show that I want her to have her space and be a person outside of our marriage. Today she is going to visit family. Did I wonder? Hell yeah. This isn't a person she usually visits. This is the second time going there. But I will let her and not question. She can do what she wants and I will not put a leash on her at all. I will be upbeat and tell her she needs to get out more.
jibe with this:
Originally Posted By: tpc1977
That's why I need to either find out the total truth or keep it as it is and stop the internal noises.
Those seem to contradict each other. Either you need to find out one way or another (because continued infidelity is a dealbreaker for you, and/or because the suspicion is making you crazy), or you don't. I don't get it?
Reasonable people around here disagree on strategy and tactics, but I'm just trying to understand YOURS.
