I checked out the test. If he took it, he wouldn't test out as narcissistic because he would know how he's supposed to answer. (Pretty much how he convinced me to marry him.) So I took the test for him and he's pretty much spot on. There's just a few areas that don't apply to him at all, which is what throws me off on a flat-out conclusion. For example, he isn't career motivated. He doesn't want to "rule the world," he just wants to wear the crown. He doesn't want authority over other people (too much work and responsibility) but he certainly doesn't want to be told what to do. He's not obsessed with body image at all, doesn't even notice the 40 pounds he put on. Likes to be the center of attention but it's just "all for fun."
It makes me sad. Not just for me but for him. He does have abilities that if directed "for good instead of evil" would take him far. But my trying to help him looks too much like nagging or telling him what to do. Everyone else just thinks he's a such nice guy and wouldn't even tell him if his fly was open.
So my biggest question/fear -- what if I'm the narcissist and I'm the one with the blinders?
would take him far. But my trying to help him looks too much like nagging or telling him what to do. Everyone else just thinks he's a such nice guy and wouldn't even tell him if his fly was open.