If you've read all this and can help me, I do have something on my mind about this current situation.
If she is seeing someone else, or at least talking to someone else, would she still want to be close to me and as affectionate as she is sometimes? I mean, sometimes she wants me real close and touching and kissing. Sometimes she asks me to lay my head on her lap while we watch TV. Sometimes she wants me to just hang out with her while she's working on one of her projects. I always comply and never make it negative in anyway. But I wonder if it's because she's really needing me because of love or because of guilt.
Could be guilt. Could be she's conflicted, and still trying to keep both "plates" spinning on both sticks, unsure as to which of you she wants. Could be she's cake-eating. Could be she broke up with OM, and is slowly warming to you. Could be she's playing you. Could be a LOT of things, which is why I'm so pro-intel, as I'd much rather fly on good instruments than thru the fog, blindly.
As you can tell, I'm not big on the whole "ostrich" approach. Sure, it reduces conflict, but at what cost if your gut is still churning all the time, because you're assuming the worst anyway?
