Hope your son Ryan is doing better...its funny, we have so much in common, both with the special needs sons and my oldest son is named Ryan also..:)
I totally relate to the hospital stays and the handleing of things alone. but I guess thats why we were made with such strong shoulders...and I agree, your ex is an A hole...IMO..

Me:48 H:42
M: 18 yrs.
S: 9/1/09 due to alcoholic H
D bomb: 9/9/11
OW confirmed 10/30/11
D papers filed 11/01/11
S15 S21(Special needs) S28

Look to yourself, It is there that all your answers are found...