So after 5 months of hard boundaries, ignoring calls, thinking and protecting myself.. I finally learned something...
... it wasn't about what worked for her, it was what worked for ME.
So NOW my new actions are what works for me with no expectations of wife or reconc.
I am nice because I want to be. I am firm because I want/need to be. I respect her because that's how I want to treat her. I set boundaries because I am worthy of respecting.
See the pattern - the spotlight is on me.. not her.
IMO this ^^^^ is the essence of db'ing. Well done & said Val!!
