WAW learning to be a passenger

[Truegritter]

I've stopped coping with alcohol and male attention. I've started to take a look at my faults/issues. I don't want to be the person I was in the M, or how I dealt with the problems, or how I acted in the split.

Ok. Now the hard part begins. The real work as we say here.

We know what happened. You hvae taken the first step and gained the awareness of what you did and what part it had in the demise of your M.

Now

WHY did you do this? Why did you choose to behave this way?

I truly honestly don't know anymore if there will be a chance for us.

So is this where you quit? Is this the hill you die on? What are you prepared to do for your M. For yourself. If you are not guaranteed it can be saved?

he believes there are things he won't get past with us, he doesn't recognize anything he did wrong just that we didn't work. He remembers more of the bad than the good. I think I need to accept that.

How long has is it taken you to come to see your part in this and own it? Until you woke up in tears with the truth of it?

It is hard business growing up. But everyone is capable of it.

He doesn't know that for himself

and he doesn't believe that of you ... right now.

Why are you doing this?

How much of his rejection will you take?

You failed in your vows in the past, what is it that is holding you to them this time?