I have followed your sitch with interest as mine has developed and I can say that I truly feel for you right now.
Once realisation hit home you have worked tremendously hard to rectify your mistake - everyone makes mistakes and you should try to let go of the guilt you are currently feeling.
As a LBS, I can sympathise with your new found position and the torture that comes with the realisation of the errors we make as individuals within a relationship that ultimately leads to its breakdown.
This is a very steep learning curve, life is about continuous learning and improving ourselves from the mistakes we make and the decisions that map our lives.
You have held yourself together admirably and I can only commend you on your behaviour in recent weeks and months - it appears that your H is caught in the honeymoon period of a new relationship.
Ask yourself this, has he reflected sufficiently to improve himself or has he taken the same person into a new relationship to reduce the hurt he felt?
At this particular moment when he looks at you he probably feels hurt and does not seem to have got past what he probably perceived as a betrayal on your part - the new woman has not hurt him (yet) in such a deep way and you have to accept that right now he is probably very very wary of you.
I know that may seem hard to hear.
I think you may have to let go, for now, he has stated that timing is everything and probably does not trust the changes he sees right now - it will all still be very raw.
Keep improving, keep the changes going - but do it for yourself.
If he comes back then good, if not then you will find that these changes will serve you well in any new relationship you may find moving forward.
One word of advice - do not seek solace in the arms of another man until you feel ready.
Could do with some advice from the other side of the fence on my thread if you have time.
