April, I don't know if this will help, but I read the CoDependent No More book, and that helped me take away the feeling of 'fixing' and that his feelings were mine.
Sounds like your H is just blowing wind, but I don't know the laws in your state. In mine, nothing happens until I am served officially. If there is no serving, then the case is dismissed. Your lawyer can bring you up to speed on that.
Me& h + S M: 13 t: 14
H moved 2/12. Own apt 05/12, EAs, PAs, gfriends, oh my! I'm done. 12/12
"I get knocked down, but I get up again.. you're never gonna keep me down" Chumbawumba
