Sometimes they just think we are stupid. So the H sent me FedEx divorce papers. They were copies. H tells me he sent the orginals to the court, and I need to go to the court and sign them. But first I need the case number, which he will get to me soon....Yeah right. My L and I can do nothing he says as the papers have already been filed......
Seriously??? Does he think I am that f......ing stupid????
He does not have an attorney, I have not signed anything, and last time I checked, one does not go to the court to sign divorce papers.....AFTER they have been supposedly filed.
WTF is wrong with these people????
Grrrrrrrrrrrrr.......sometimes I seriously want to take a board and beat the living crap out of them.
April, the laws governing this vary from state to state. I cannot speak to GA law. I can speak from my experience in OH. I know, I know D@mm Yankees.
XW filed her suit. I was served by registered letter four days later. It took a day or two to move through the system and get a case number assigned, case backlog whatever. I spoke with my L the following Monday. He had received a courtesy copy from her L and had begun to draw up a counter suit. We went through the process with a contested divorce.
I suspect there is little to do until you are officially served. I suspect when you are you and your L can decide if agreeing with the terms of the dissolution or if countering is in your best interest. In my case the court system tolerated as little drama and emotion as possible. Trust your L to guide you through the process, which is what he is hired to do. Be certain you understand everything before signing.
We all seem better at posting in other’s situations. I think that is natural as we are not involved and it is easier to remain objective.
Whenever I hear “these things take time” I think about the stories my father told regarding my birth. Mom and I did not to the chagrin of the hospital staff.
What we are doing here however is not a singular event. This is a process and in my experience it is a process I cycled through many times. While I am coming to acceptance I still have more changes to accomplish. I think most of us do. Granted your mileage may vary as each of us brings different skills and experiences to the process.
The days and weeks ahead may challenge you as they did me, however you will persevere.
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You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill
April, I don't know if this will help, but I read the CoDependent No More book, and that helped me take away the feeling of 'fixing' and that his feelings were mine.
Sounds like your H is just blowing wind, but I don't know the laws in your state. In mine, nothing happens until I am served officially. If there is no serving, then the case is dismissed. Your lawyer can bring you up to speed on that.
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H moved 2/12. Own apt 05/12, EAs, PAs, gfriends, oh my! I'm done. 12/12
"I get knocked down, but I get up again.. you're never gonna keep me down" Chumbawumba
Hey guys... Been silent for awhile. Went on the cruise with the kiddos, had a blast, and enjoyed myself. Got home yesterday and today the H decides to blast me with yet another round of texts. So it goes like this. "Got the papers back from the court, and they don't accept personal checks even though the web site says they do, and the lady I spoke with says they do, so I will get a money order tomorrow and forward you the docs." I respond "Fine, no problem." What do I get, why are you being so pissy? WTF--you got pissy with 3 words?? Now keep in mind, before I left for the cruise it was the papers were being returned because I had not signed them...I never got served by the way. Now the story has changed yet again....I grow so weary of the hamster wheel.
Someone on here please tell me why when we are trying to be nice and just accomadate them to get it over with, they spew all the venom and hate they can muster. I just don't get it. I want nothing, have asked for nothing, our kids are grown, and still its not enough...I just want peace, and I want this to be over. I just don't understand why there has to be all this hate and whatnot. I am ready to sign, I am ready to be done....
