[quote=adinva But "remember that" caused me to think about apartment rents and the fact that unless things change a lot soon we'll also be paying for an apartment. Or, I'll be paying for the house and he'll be paying for an apartment. It's too bad. This is a financially stupid, emotionally stupid, logically stupid separation/divorce.
I'm attractive, funny, fun, fit, happy, well adjusted, understanding, intelligent, committed, honest, loving, and more. He is definitely a fool to leave.
So I was driving from the airport today thinking, what is it? Why doesn't he love me? Why won't he give us a chance? And I thought to myself, stop asking questions that have no answers. It helped for the moment. There's no answer that I can see, maybe that I'll ever see, and I'll just have to get on with things. [/quote]
Hi Advina,
Yep, this is a big stumbling block for me too. There is no logic to it. I just try to keep in mind that my H is sick/lost/suffering at the moment.
And therefore the normal rules don't apply. He probably doesn't know the answers himself.
All we can do is focus on ourselves and get whatever positives we can out of a bad situation in terms of personal growth.
And show compassion, grace and patience for someone whom we once loved and who loved us.
We can get on with things, but we get on with them BETTER now; we've learned so much.
We've gained as well as lost. So keep these positives in mind if you can.
