HRM-- To H, it works when he initiates, because HE is controlling the sitch at the time...when YOU express your wants, he isn't controlling it...hence, the "performance", or lack thereof. H can't control what he is thinking or feeling deep down inside, so he "lashes out" for any control he can take (my W is master at this).

GOOD for YOU for pushing off the "discussion" and not backing down, and for having a reason no male could really argue with... smile You have pulled the male "compartmentalization of life" card on him... laugh I wonder if he wont forget about it come this weekend, mlc'ers memories are less than optimal, as we all know.... smile


So he found you hott, did something about it, somehow put his toothbrush where it belonged and left "his room" door open, then realized that he wasn't supposed to find you hott, or put his toothbrush in the holder, etc and he saw these blades of grass rustling in his mind and has scampered off into the weeds again...

Feral cat stuff...

I feel for you, I really do know, it isn't easy having the person we want there, within touching distance, yet they have "forgotten" we exist, reject us and/or target the heavy artillery at us...

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Am I insane because I still don't want a divorce, because I still see how we could get through this disaster with a stronger marriage???


Nope, it about guarantees you are completely sane...sorry... wink

I loved your rant and can identify with it soooo much!

Now back to work...on YOU. smile

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In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus

Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm