It's great tht you have a good time with your H. Depressed person is having difficulty to identify his/her needs. I asked my W to fill the Marriagebuilder questionaires. But her answers don't make sense. The four most important needs she mentioned were not fulfilled by the om but more by me (Financial support, family commitment etc). However, she certainly could not let go the om. Something important emotional needs must be filled by the om. But she ranked them lower.
I can understand that you consider your job more important as you are not sure about whether your M will work out. I think I can understand also why my W clings to her job. As she is worried that I might leave her for what she did to me. Interesting POV.
I would encourage you to give assurance to your H that you will try to work out your M if he does too. I am sure if both of you are working toeard improving your M. You two will be OK. I wish my W is willing to work on our M like your H.
