Lee! So nice to hear what's going on with you. Thanks for the great advice on my thread, too.
Quote: I know that we need to do some MC. H says that it would be for me to have a place where i can let all the pain and anger of his actions out, where as i see it as us finding a way forward and hopefully at the end recommitting to our marriage.
That's OK if you have different ideas of "why" you'd do it, it's what happens there that could help you through this tough part.
I can really relate to the wants/need thing. I once tried to have a conversation with my H about this and he was so confused. What? You don't "need" me? Isn't that bad? Need is a big issue with my H-- and from what I have read this is common with people suffering from depression.
So, while I'd be concerned with him not understanding his own needs... it's also not surprising given his D and also the whole WAH thing. If they knew what they needed, they wouldn't be running any time something went awry...they'd find what they need in a healthy way.
Definitely do check out T2's thread, she is also dealing with this stuff and so well, too. There are others on piecing dealing with the reconnecting and how much is H doing issue as well. You've got good company.
