Lee~ You sound great! I think it is wonderful that you and H are talking about things that you both need, etc!!!
I find it interesting that H NEEDS you, and you WANT him...that is one for the MC. Sounds like his needs may overwhelm you a little?? It also concerns me that he can't identify his needs!
Quote: i'm committed to seeing if we have a chance of a marriage, but that i didn't just want to be married and unhappy, i only want to stay married if we are both happy and have the same objectives
This is great...so very honest!
I think your goals are simple, but very realistic!
Quote: Is there anyone who had there H move home and then find that they (the LBS) wanted them to move out again? I know that i want the M to work and i know that it can, i just don't know how to do it.
I know I have read stories like this in piecing...just lurk a little and I am sure you will find examples! This seems to be the toughest part...you DBed, he came home and now you're saying, "now what do I do with him?" Have you read Trying24Now? I think her sitch was similar!
Happiness is like a butterfly: the more you chase it, the more it will elude you, but if you turn your attention to other things, it will come and sit softly on your shoulder.... (thoreau)
