I've read of my MLC spouses who leave without a forwarding address. And some who stay in touch but will give out no contact info. When my ex left - he would not give me his address or new cel phone #. He did give it to the 2 younger kids (19 & 12 at the time). So if I had to contact him - I did so by email. Then he changed his email address and I could only contact him through work.
Last year our son was rushed to hospital (he has always had serious medical issues) and I contacted him through work as he was near death. I asked him at the time for his email address. He told me "I'm not comfortable with that". (Like I'm some kind of stalker - NOT!).
Anyway - the kids have told me he is in Russia on some cruise. He left no contact info for them or for me. And Ryan has been in hospital and quite ill during the past couple of weeks. Apparently he knew he was in hospital but made no attempt to contact me to see how he was doing or to let me know he would be away.
How horrible would it be if he were away and something happened? Of course there would be nothing I could do. But it would be awful.
I remember my dearly departed DB pal Frosty would call her ex "The Mole" because he holed up and never gave her an address or phone # either.
I guess after 11 years they still want their little secrets.
