Hi Lee!
I am so glad H agreed to MC. Be sure and find someone solution oriented and pro marriage!!

As for goals...I think you have to start small. Think about what Michele says in DR...what will you need to see happen to know things are getting better (she puts it much better than I do, but you get the idea...).

Keep us posted on your goals!!

Happiness is like a butterfly: the more you chase it, the more it will elude you, but if you turn your attention to other things, it will come and sit softly on your shoulder.... (thoreau)