The WAW who stood still (can he catch up already?)

[MrBond]

I agree that we aren't saying opposite things.

Your H pretty much told you what he wanted.

"He told me over and over that this was unfair to say this to him. That I chose to leave and now I'm angry at him that he won't get back together with me now that I've changed my mind. That I had months of being single and I won't let him do that. He kept saying you can't be angry at me."

This sentence is the key.

He wants space and you're smothering him. You have to be patient. You were able to do your own thing to figure out what you wanted. He feels he needs to be able to do the same thing.

So do you have the patience and strength to do it? It's going to be real easy for you to start resenting him for what he's doing. But you have to learn to respect it. It's his choice. He is on a path that you started him on. You can't go back and say that you changed your mind so he should too.

You really hurt him and he needs time to heal. You can't keep thinking about what you want. You wanted to leave so you left. You wanted a relationship with someone else so you did. Now you want back and expect him to welcome you with open arms. Won't work that way.

Can you put his needs before yours? If you can't, then you won't get him back.