[/quote]That's alot for him to get over. Maybe he's self-medicating with the OW, or maybe he feels like he really can't trust you. Fact is that you can't expect him to "get over" you leaving for awhile.
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CW just stood for coworker. I didn't want to get in all the details.
I don't expect him to just "get over" me ending the relationship or developing something with someone else. But we both know neither of us would have looked into our problems if I hadn't pulled the trigger. He never would have and he admits this, he would have continued to exist being unhappy, withdrawn, emotionally unavailable, P/A, and resentful. Are you saying that I shouldn't have told him my feelings when they changed? That because I had a relationship I should have shoved my change of heart away and kept walking away. Or would an LBS rather have that knowledge? that choice? I told him that I'm not asking him to promise that we'll be together in 20 years. I'm just asking him to leave the door open, to give us a chance. Because we never really did.
I feel like a lot of what he said was conflicting....
[quote]i think the vets would say it's time for LRT. do you think he will miss you when he comes over to watch the "telly" with you weekly? if he's moving in with OW, she should make his meals and be his company. just my opinion.
I agree. I'm going to LRT or go dark or whatever for my sanity. I can't do this right now. And it makes me angry. Don't tell me you miss me and S and come over to get your fix of happy family but ultimately decide there was "too much bad"
So Mr Bond tells me to believe him that I've done too much harm. And Jack Three Beans tells me to stay the course. I'm not going to make any decisions now. Not when I can't see through the tears. I don't know how to make amends for my mistakes and he's still doing things that upset me in the R. So I really need to think.
