brit, so sorry for your pain and fear. yes, you got another bomb. and yes, you did all the things we all do when we get the bomb; beg,cry, plead, rationalize, defend, accuse, etc.

go back to DB 101. you're very good at it. he needs T-I-M-E.

you previously stated you would be his "friend". you stopped being his friend and became the LBS again. go back to being his friend when you deal with him. i think the vets would say it's time for LRT. do you think he will miss you when he comes over to watch the "telly" with you weekly? if he's moving in with OW, she should make his meals and be his company. just my opinion.

i can also see a deep love he has for you with some of the things he said. he's so sentimental about you. he's been humiliated by the CW (what does that stand for? i'm thinking "casual" something?). it's very hard for some men to get over that. i had a coworker who had an affair with another coworker's son. she and her husband finally got back together but he will not go around any of the people who worked with his wife. we've all lost touch with them. it was just too much for him to bear.

i know you can do this if you want to. you will just have to give it time and do the work. good luck, brit!


M:63
H:53
S:41, SS:28, SS:25, SD:23
M:15
T:16

Bomb:12/17/11, "I think we should go our separate ways."
H moves to his mother's house, 4/1/12
12/21/12: H moves back home, piecing