Thanks, Mr. Bond. Funny thing is a co-worker of mine had the very same idea. Great minds must think alike.
And @ Lio, I wondered how frustrating it must be to have to hear him gripe about me all the time? I can honestly say no one can infuriate him like I can. LOL!
Just talked to the banker H spoke to regarding the house. I wanted to make sure H was giving me the true story. And he was. His story checked out. Score one for H. I have a little more faith in him now.
I told the banker point blank that I knew H was "looking into" mortgage details for me but I would prefer to handle the details of my own mortgage myself. So I feel a little less fearful since I am researching and gathering facts on my own.
AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012 Two kids, one dog D Final 6/18/14 J marries OW 1/24/15 "No matter where you go, there you are"
After I thought about it, maybe you should print out a bunch of embarrassing or less than flattering pictures of your H, then send them to the OW. And attach a note to them. "You can have him! Good luck. PS remind him to take his herpes cream. He always forgets."
I kid of course.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
In fact when I emailed him looking for the banker info I made a light little note about hoping he had a nice time sightseeing in Boston. He replied and told me he hadn't had time to tell me about it but he had a great time (I bet). He even sent me two photos of whales splashing in the water (of course OW wasn't in the photo). I was tempted to email back and ask which one was OW? : ) That would have been sassy. But funny.
AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012 Two kids, one dog D Final 6/18/14 J marries OW 1/24/15 "No matter where you go, there you are"
So I called him out on the Boston trip. He called me on my way home because I had emailed him earlier that I was planning on taking the kids to my moms for the weekend. He said I want to talk about that. He said you gave me plenty of notice but one of these weekends I was hoping to spend time with the kids (first time for everything) and I wanted to take them up north. I said you mean by OW? He said yes. I said I thought I explained I don't want them going there. He said I can't control what he does with the kids when he has them. I explained we were still married so maybe I can't and just maybe I can. He got really snippy and told me it didn't matter. I asked him if he was paying attention in that parenting class about introducing kids to OW/OM too soon? He said that is if you are dating more than one person not one person exclusively. I told him. Thought that was his interpretation. Then I told him I did not appreciate him spending our marital money on her. And I also told him I knew he took OW to Boston. He said he didn't fly her out there. I said oh you met her out there then. I don't appreciate you spending our money on her. He said I didn't. I asked him if he charged it back to the company and he snapped "that's none of your business!" Bingo.
I need to talk to a lawyer to see if I can do anything about keeping OW from the kids. Probably not but I sure am not going to make things easy for him.
AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012 Two kids, one dog D Final 6/18/14 J marries OW 1/24/15 "No matter where you go, there you are"
