Is it over after 28 yrs??

[MrBond]

"I would rather be home with kids"

Then do that. If she wants "space" she can go to another room. Or take the kids out. She can't make you leave.

Sounds like your W feels you're a wuss. She equates manliness to you being able to be assertive and a little authoritative. So maybe you need to show her a little of that.

"I want to ask her, but wont, why the is no touching between us, after the bomb drop all contact stopped."

This is what I'm talking about. You don't ask her why there is no touching. She doesn't respect you. She's not attracted to you right now.

What have you done to get back your confidence? That is the key here.