I'm back, on my own.

[canadianMrs.]

I was in piecing for a bit, but realized my h was still trying to have the best of both worlds. I offically detached from H and moving on without him; and I finally get what I've been reading, when you are really ready to detach you'll do it. I thought I'd said good-bye to these boards, but although I've detached, H still tries to get into my life. I realized I still need to be among others going through MLC, because as much as I'm doing well at GAL and detaching, we have children together and I can't escape him altogether. I need strength (in numbers) to get through the times he tries to manipulate me or still trying to deal with how could the boy I fell in love with at 16 become the man who has treated me so horribly these 18 months. It really does feel like emotional abuse at times.

One observation, is it just my H or all MLC's that while they want to have OW (or OM) and say all the degrading things they do to us, how come they still don't like it when we date. My H has told me it bothers him?!