There is no need to do that Tad, if there aren't any for you there aren't any.

As for your brother? I am sorry, there is a reason it is called a script, because it seems like they all say the same words.

"ILYBINILWY"
"It's not you, it's me."
"We grew a part"
"He / She 's just a friend."
"I haven't been happy for XX years."
"I deserve to be happy."

It's almost...cultural.

You wanted to know if they reconnect with the kids.

I believe they do.

I believe that if they are ever going to possibly or even potentially ever / maybe try and reconnect with the spouse...

first they have to go through the kids if you share them.

My fear is that you might read too much into that.

I cannot stress enough how expecting it will happen will hurt you Tad.


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Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK

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