If I'm detaching, how do I act when she picks the kids up or I'm around her at a game or family event. Do I say hi or how are you doing. If someone might be able to give me an idea before she picks the kids up at 3, that would help. Right now I have been quiet, which I think she thinks I'm mad because she said last week she thinks a D would be best. Help!!!
Be upbeat and positive. Believe me, it takes practice. Keep practicing this until it sinks in. Maybe your positives could be related to the kids? If she thinks you're angry, it will help justify the D decision. IOW, she would not want to return to an angry person anyway.
