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A long time ago I realized why I needed to let go. I realized who I needed to let go of. What I, and as it turns out, many struggle with is 'how' to let go.
We didn't ask for this, and we may not understand it, but we all seem to get to a point where we need to do it to free ourselves and truly free our ex's.

Starting a thread to help with that topic.

A recent suggestion from Walking was to envision cutting the cord. Perhaps Walking will chime in with that. At some point down the road, we'll summarize and repost with a new thread title. With any luck, something catchy...

If you have something you can add, please do so. It may help others.

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The Stop Sign technique is a good one for keeping your mind from replaying all those bad movies. Why would you want to watch a bad movie over and over? Picture a big red STOP sign and change the mental channel.

Also, the single biggest help to me was joining an adult rock band class (think School of Rock for grownups). Guaranteed one night a week where I would not be thinking about my sitch - and you can't be unhappy while drumming rock songs! (Caution - I would nOT advise joining a blues band - or a country band! LOL)

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Hi - cat started a thread about this - with my name on it. I wtired Walking technique and it was awesome and unxpected. I feel freer than I have for a long time. I think we can remain connected unless we take active steps

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AJM, techniques focusing on letting go? Or techniques for dealing with a whole range of issues?



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