Sadly Returning

[mishka422]

I don't want to burst any bubbles here but I think you need to re-read that convo and actually see what she's telling you.

W I will not call you if you if i get sick

w: I dont want you to worry about that.

Take that exactly as she means it. She is distancing herself and wants to stand on her own feet. Don't mention wanting to be nearby 'in case she gets sick'. That is being clingy and trying to maintain an attachment that she no longer wants. Please take her at her word or it may come back to bite you. If she reaches out to you then that is a change in her feelings and you can respond then.

She already had told you how she felt about it but you still said:

M: Last but not least if you get sick. This is no one else to call but me. I will always be there for you regardless of where i live.

MAJOR PURSUING BEHAVIOR. Also, it shows that you aren't really listening to her.

Woment want to be hear and taken at their word. Regardless of what men are told growing up, women are not that cryptic. We may not always say directly what we mean, but we also don't twist things to sound one way when we mean something else (except in the instances of manipulative b!tches...those are another breed entirely! )

I appreciate that but you shouldnt have to worry about me...I would request that you not put any money down on a house without at least discussing it with me first because we still have joint bills that need to be paid.

She has reiterated her stance on this and added that she needs to be involved in your decision regarding a house because it will directly affect the household bills. Again, please listen. She is voicing her concern without going directly at you with 'don't spend any money without talking to me'.

On the other hand, let me say this, when you meet Sunday morning to walk and talk, let her do most of the talking. Validate her feelings, disagree if you have to but don't do so in a confrontational manner or by telling her that her feelings are wrong.

You've got this. Just try to pull back a little on some of your tendencies and you may have a shot.