The relief I feel these days is unbelievable, which really tells me that I am making the right choices.
I refuse to be manipulated by this man again, and hopefully will take these lessons into all future friendships/relationships. It is not just for a romantic relationship, it is a lesson I needed badly.
Honestly I know he is seeing someone, and wish he would just leave me alone already.
Yes I tend to agree with everything you said. When coordinating, I did it with S15 and later mentioned to STBX who of course didn't complain, it was exactly what he wanted.
I explained to S15 that I was not in any way trying to say anything bad about his father, he just needs to know that the rules apply to anyone who has been drinking and he shouldn't get in the car with them (father or not). He understood without me saying much thankfully
When he left Sun am he texted me to say "S15 is sleeping, I didn't make him breakfast. I am leaving now"
It makes me sad, not only is he giving up his time with the boys for drinking/dating/whatever he is up to, but he is also trying to be their friend when he is with them. Great, just what I need
Yesterday as we were leaving baseball he mentioned S17 coming to his house at midnight Tuesday (tonight) Tomorrow is his bday and he will be 18. He wants to smoke a cigar at midnight. I explained that he has no days left and needs to get to school. If he is out until early morning hours it will be me who has to get him up and out for school. And I think graduating is a little more important than smoking a cigar at midnight. Especially when STBX will see him on Wednesday anyway.
I just got a text from him saying "I agree S17 coming at midnight is a bad idea since he has no days left. Would you mind if I stop after taking S15 to the gym and have a cigar on the porch? I won't stay long-we both want to do this. Please let me know"
I feel like the text is from one of the boys. Just shaking my head and responded "thats fine"
Ok so now I am calling my L this morning, this is beyond ridiculous. He is messing with the finances and household bills. I feel sick to my stomach. I need her to step in and do something.
We each have separate accts and kept the joint acct to pay household bills. This way I can see, as he insists on handling for now. I can track when and what is paid.
On Saturday I found out that he had not paid the gas/electric since February, lovely
So he got that up to date
This morning I find out that he is in fact paying all bills from his personal acct. I can't see anything.
Without accusing, I emailed to say "I am confused, why are you not paying out of the joint acct" so he forwarded me the bills he paid this week as an update.
