Until you feel good about yourself I don't think you'll see a change. But yes we all have to accept that it is a gamble we don't know that they'll reconsider and we don't know that they won't.
It's been almost 3 months for me...although I didn't go non pursuit until about 2 weeks ago. A friend of mine says oh I think you guys could work it out but probably not for like a year. I screamed over the phone A YEAR!!! and she says "Brit, when you think about it...what's a year in your life." And she's right. We want it to happen now because to stop hurting and to stop feeling uncertain of the future which is a fear. We have to stop hurting on our own, face all the fears on our own before reconcile is possible.
