Ok, well I have a little more time. H and i have had a good week. Started out a little shakie but got better as the week went on. We had a bunch of friends over last night, and had a really busy week with work and yesterday, so i asked H if he would get the house ready for visitor, including putting his stuff away. When i got home on friday, he had done all that and more.
I was getting ready for a shower and i noticed a ring box on the bedside table, it was the one that he put his wedding ring in and it was empty. After my shower i checked out his left hand and sure enough he was wearing it. I didn't say anything and didn't make a fuss about it at all.
Yesterday morning i just said thankyou to him. He asked me why and i told him that i was thankful for all the things he had done around the house and also that i noticed that he was wearing his ring (I told him that i would remember to tell him when he was doing things right). And that was all i said.
We have been going along quite well. H is talking about the future and spending time with me and just being content. I know the is still a long way to go, but i'm optimistic about the future. I think wonder was right, in that i'm dbing by just looking at what i'm doing and trying to watch for more of the same behaviour.
Just so you all know, i might not be around much for the next 5 weeks. I'm going away with work and internet access many not be that great. I have put in to place some goals for while i'm away, so hopefully H and i will continue to move in the right direction.
Fingers crossed, this sort of thing has always been difficult for H, but at least he has some company, as my sister and her so are living here at the mom.
