Grace, Love, Compassion, and Faith - It's A Choice

[Valeska19]

Thanks Guys!

@ LA - You're quite welcome. I'm glad your not throwing out his stuff. My g/f always say "People are showing you their character with actions.. believe them".

I think its always better to show a character of a kindness..

which brings me to a journal entry.

W sent 3 different emails today. Lucky me.. lol. I'm trying to read into tone but IMO they are very different.

1st one about taxes:

I spoke with x and I'm comfortable with him doing the taxes. It's still not a guarantee whether he will do the joint or separate until he has seen our taxes. I could drop off my documents on Friday because I'm off and will be up that way. Does that work for you?

This communication works for me. It's pleasant and it's about the two of us. She isn't trying to control the conversation.. and it feels like she is being understanding.

The 2nd & 3rd email is about a HUGE hike in my health insurance.

I just wanted to give you the heads up, we just had the medical insurance meeting at work. We were informed that medical insurance for employee + spouse will be $675.28 for basic health insurance. We should talk about this and about whether this is something you want to continue with.

I also need to turn in the paperwork by next week, so unfortunately, we need to talk about this sooner rather than later.

I could be wrong but the 2nd email is semi- nice but I feel the tone shifting.

What would it hurt to ask if we could talk.

I know I need to let things go but I don't like being spoken to like that.

What's crazy is when we were together she used to help me re-write emails because I used to type similar ones to one she sent me and she would always say "That reads cold" or "I could see how that might rub people wrong".

I'm not really sure what to do but I really liked where we were going communication.

Maybe it's the pull back.. who knows...

or I guess it should be "who cares".

Because my action should be the same.