I want to jsut tell you something. My H has been home since the 23rd Nov, Now although I was glad to have him home a lot of the emotions I had suppressed whilst he was away suddenly re-surfaced. I can say that things have only really started to becaome good in the last few weeks.
I am paranoid about H's phone, bcos he used to get texts from her on it, Now I have to fight with myself not to look at it or snoop, I know that if I did that it would cos me to get angry and resentfull.
You need to stay detached from H's action for a while, My H still hid his phone from me for a while after he came home and he was a little secretive. In the old days this would of caused heaps of argument, But now I just leave it, im not being a door mat, but its how they are when they first come home.
If you stick to the detachment and rising above it all, evenmtually H will settle.
Try and stay detached from what H does, Just be yourself and be happy, otherwise the resentment builds up and you are back to square 1.
Its hard.. but if you change they change.. they really do.
