Lee ~
Thanks for letting me know where to find you--I have wondering how things were going with you since you have been so supportive of me!!

I can't say I'm an expert at piecing (although I would like the chance to be..... ), but I have a few observations....
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It's almost like he has decided that all will be well, and so he wants to forget about this whole episode and pretend that it never happened.


Maybe you should think back to the very beginning of your Dbing experience and do some goal setting. I would start with short term goals.

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He talked about the fact that he just wants things to be ok again, and knows that he needs to slow it down.


Maybe you should talk about what this would look like for you and what it would look like for him......I know you don't want to go back to the old patterns. Maybe you should talk about the R in the context of a new R not the old R!

As far as your family...I think that will take some time and you may not want to get them invovled yet. I know my parents are angry with H, yet wish they could help him and sort of feel sorry for him too.

I think you have to go back to looking for babysteps! Keep us posted and keep showing H what a wonderful person you are!!!!!!!!!!!

(((((LEE)))))

Happiness is like a butterfly: the more you chase it, the more it will elude you, but if you turn your attention to other things, it will come and sit softly on your shoulder.... (thoreau)